Divorce is the act of terminating the marital union and also the canceling of the legal duties of marriage. Of course, this will all be possible with the help of an attorney or a lawyer.
It is undeniable that divorce is indeed painful, it is a big mess that couple wanted to enter because of the thought that they might fix their relationship after being separated. Divorce won't give you anything positive, it will just leave you with lots of questions-as to why you have to be separated with each other.
"Obviously, I'm not a relationship expert. But there's something about my divorce being finalized this week that gives me perspective of things I wish I would have done different: After losing a woman that I loved, and a marriage of almost 16 years, here's the advice I wish I would have had.." Gerald Rogers said.
- Never stop courting. Never stop dating.
You should never take your woman for granted. When you proposed to her and ask her to marry you, you promised to her that you'll be the man that would OWN HER HEART and to FIERCELY PROTECT IT. This is the most important promise that you'' ever be entrusted with. Never ever forget that she chose you. Never get lazy in your love.
- Protect your own heart.
Just as you promised to take good care of her heart you should also protect her whole being. Love yourself fully, love the world openly but you should have that special place in your heart that no one can ever enter except your wife.
Fall in love over and over and over again.
Nothing is permanent in this world except change. As time flies, you, as a husband will change. Both of you are forced to re-choose each other over again. SHE DOESN'T HAVE TO STAY WITH YOU, and once you broke her heart I assure you that she'll be looking for another man who will take care of her heart. So all you have to do is fight to win her back again.
Always see the best in her.
Focus only on what you love. The things where you focus will surely expand. If you focus on what you love about her, you'll definitely be consumed by that. Focus to what you love until you can no longer see anything except the love, that's when you'll realize that you're the luckiest man on earth.
It's not your job to change her.Your only job is to love her unconditionally despite her failures. You should always love her no matter what.
Take full accountability.
Be responsible for your own emotions. It's her job to make you happy and you should also be responsible for finding your own happiness and let that happiness spill over your relationship with your wife.
Never blame her if you get angry.
Never ever let your anger take over you. Never blame her if you get frustrated or mad at her, never blame her jut because something inside you is triggering. You should take full responsibility with your own emotions, it's your emotions not hers. And when time comes that you're losing track of your emotions, take time to fix your self and understand everything that's happening.
Allow your woman to just be.
When she's angry, you don't have the right to fix her. The only right thing you should do whenever she's mad is to hold her so tight to let her know that everything's alright. Let her know that you'll always be there for her. One thing you should never do is to runaway from her when she's upset, because you'll only make things worse.
Be silly.
Don't take life too seriously, be funny. Make her happy, laughter always makes things better.
Fill her soul everyday.
Learn everything about her. You should know the ways to make her feel special, needed and cherished. Ask her to create a list of 10 things that make her feel loved, and memorize those things to make it your everyday priority.
Be present.
Don't just simply give her your time. Be present physically and mentally. Focus your attention and your soul to her whenever you're together.
Don't be an idiot.
Don't be afraid to be an idiot. Both of you will surely make mistakes but you should also be aware not to make too big mistakes. And whenever you've done something wrong, you should learn from that mistake.
Be willing to take her sexually.
Let her be carried away by your masculine presence. Consume her with all your strength and make sure to penetrate her to the deepest levels of her soul. Let her melt into her softness as she realize she can fully trust you.
Give her space.
Women are good at giving, and as a man you should also learn to give. Give her space when she needs it. Let her transfer from one thought to another just to take time for herself. Give her space especially when she needs to adjust and re-focus her self again.
Be vulnerable.
Be very much willing to talk to her and share all you're feeling even if it means sharing your fears with her.
Be fully transparent.
If you want to gain her trust, you should be willing to share her everything. Even if you want some privacy, you still have to share it with her. Being transparent means telling her that she don't have to be worried about everything.
Never stop growing together.
Find common goals that you can both achieve together. You should both work for each other.
Don't worry about money.
Money is a game and as partners, you should look for a way to win it together. Never fight because of it because it will not give you anything good.
- Forgive immediately.
FORGIVENESS IS FREEDOM. Forgive immediately and let go of the bad things that happened to both of you. You should never let those bad things to take over your relationship just because you didn't forgive easily.
- Always choose love. Always choose love.
In the end, this is the only advice you needed. This advice will be the only treatment you need in your relationship. Love endures everything.
Marriage isn't always about happily ever after. Those words just exist in fairy tales, in real life all you needed to do is to work things out. Let the both of you transfer from being bad individuals to good partners. Let the both of you develop and grow because of each other's love.
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